When people find out what I do on the side, I frequently get the response of, “I think about this issue all of the time but I have no idea where to start, I just know guns make me uncomfortable and I don’t think I would actually carry one”. Since I grew up around guns, it seemed so obvious to me that a purse should be designed to hold guns specifically. Since I made the first version of the handbag and talking to literally hundreds of women I now realize how many more self-defense options a handbag would need to accommodate to make every woman feel truly prepared for her own needs. So where do you start?
1. Where are you going today? What is the potential level of risk? Have you ever looked up the crime statistics of the areas you work, live, or hang out in?
It may surprise you to see how much crime is going on around you that you are never aware of. I decided to take action myself when I researched how many sex offenders were within a one-mile radius of my work (there were three within a few blocks) before I decided I couldn’t just walk to the bus alone at night. Women often get attacked within a few miles of home, when women aren’t paying attention because the things they’re doing are so routine it’s easy to tune out and lose track of surroundings. Women often report “they didn’t even see the attacker” or “he came out nowhere” when the real issue is that she simply was not aware of him.
2. What are you going to be wearing? What kind of bag will you be carrying? How will you conceal some sort of self-defense tool?
You have so many outfits for different occasions, different shoes, you probably have a lot of different kinds of cooking utensils and gadgets in your kitchen too – the point is that you need lots of different tools for different jobs. You aren’t going to conceal any personal safety mechanism under your clothes if your outfit is tight or form-fitting or minimal if you’re going to the beach or workout for example. It’s important to make sure you are prepared for all the situations by having different options for all of your different needs.
For example if you’re “just running to the grocery store” or making a quick trip down the street to anywhere you could grab a cute little anti-kidnapping device in the form of kitty ears or a Sting Ring. There are a number of key chains you could have attached to your keys like pepper spray, tasers, knives, all of which you will need to keep handy to go about your life. It could be buried in your purse but having it is better than not having anything, and especially if you’re diligent about remaining aware of your surroundings you could take it out the moment you start feeling uncomfortable to prepare for a potential confrontation.
If you’re feeling a little more confident and courageous a stun gun / taser situation or pepper spray which can come in gun-shaped devices and fit perfectly in a Parker handbag and it’s easier to manage as it has it’s own spot and you can easily figure out where it is based on feeling around without looking with some practice.
I can’t lie to you, I’ve always assumed my purse would be meant for guns, but in branching out to other tools, I’ve been surprised to find how much I love other tools and how equally confident to exist in the world without fear of getting raped and murdered. You should check out a bunch of different products out there and see what you love to carry, what makes you feel most confident yourself. At the end of the day, the best personal safety device that is the best one is the one that makes you feel like the baddest bitch that will not be fucked with if anyone tries to attack you. No matter what you choose, be sure to practice using it, practice wearing or concealing it, practice taking it out quickly, practice taking it out like your life depended on it.
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